Category: Sex Fantasies

Under Sex Fantasies you will find the sexiest stories that you have always fantasized about but could never find the words to describe it.

Reenact these stories with your partner!

O is for Open Wide

This week I’m participating in Sinful Sunday Challenge. “Sinful Sunday is ALL about the image. It’s a time and a place to share those sexy/erotic pictures that you have taken.” The challenge is to take a photo based off the erotic theme given. This week she continues the challenge with a letter prompt, which is The Letter O.

When I saw this, I was more than excited! I’m always up for a sexy challenge especially if it involves erotic and pictures. Ever since I’ve had a phone with a camera, I’ve always loved taking pictures of myself. Yes, it’s gotten me into trouble at times but the way I think about it is, anything before I was 18 didn’t count because that would just be wrong.

I love taking photos of myself that make me look like a pornstar.

So fast forward to my adult days, I love taking photos of myself that make me look like a pornstar. I think that is something I would’ve done in another life if I didn’t have a gigantic filipino family. I would hate for my Uncle’s to come up to me and ask me how I loved doing the ” Big Black Cock in my Asshole” movie. Yeah, that’s not the conversations I want to have at baby showers.

I just love how freeing pornstars are! Urgh, how jealous and turned on I am when I watch porn and I see a hot young Asian girl with a similar looking like pussy as mine. I can’t help but think that I could’ve taken that dick better than her.

I look at pornstars like performers and artists. I admire them. To me, they’re like singers, dancers, acrobats, and anything else that requires a special skill. I think a lot of people look down at pornstars because they don’t have a typical office job. They’re naked and having sex for the world to see and that makes people uncomfortable.

But if you really think about it, pornstars are not your average people. They require real skills. For example, they need to be able to take dick and different objects in their pussy, their booty hole, mouth or anything that has a crease. They also need to be able to take dick for a long period of time which I already know some of ya’ll can’t take dick for more than 10 minutes. And don’t get me wrong, that is not to shame you but to make you realize pornstars are another breed and you cannot compare yourself to them.

Let your man watch porn! It’s like us women watching romantic movies all day. We fantasize what’s in front of us and try to imagine how we can make it come to life. I digress!

I say this all to say if you can’t be a pornstar, you can always look like one!

So because I can’t be a pornstar, every time I get a chance to look and act like one, I take it. I think thats my boyfriends favorite thing about me. Teehee. My favorite look on a pornstar is the face they make when their mouth is open dripping with spit waiting for cum. It’s so sexy and submissive. It looks like their eyes are begging for cum to be all over their face. It’s right after being skull fucked and their makeup is smeared from all the pounding. One lash is on her forehead and the other is barely hanging on. To me, its the look of a successful fuck session. So in honor of the Letter O challenge, here is “Open Wide.”

So in honor of the Letter O: Here is “Open Wide”

Join the challenge with me! What’s your letter O?

Stay Sexy & Curious!

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Sinful Sunday

How to Introduce Kink to Your Partner

What is kinky sex? Francisco Ramirez, a sexual health consultant told Well+Good, “Kink is anything that falls outside the bounds of culturally defined expectations, which, because of often wildly puritanical societies, could basically be anything that’s not penile-vaginal intercourse.” In other words, kink is a fantasy. It’s a time to play and do things that aren’t considered “normal.”

We’ve all had that fantasy of being saved from a castle from our knight and shining armor. Now that we’re adults, I’m sure that fantasy involves sex, right? NORMAL!

You want to jerk off because you see a nice pair of feet? NORMAL!

You want to be forced to have sex with your partner to feel like you’re in a rape scene? NORMAL!

You want to be tied up and be called degrading names while you’re being fucked? NORMAL!

The list goes on and on. If something made your body tingle and you had to jerk off afterwards, chances are you have a kink.

I’m happy to tell you there is a space and community for you.

While most kinks are “non-conventional” and because society isn’t quite sex-positive, it takes a person a little bit more courage to tell their partner about it. It can be frightening to confess to your partner your deepest desires especially if you’ve been ridiculed in the past.

Kinks are just important to your sexuality as blowjobs are to men. It’s what we desire and if it is not fulfilled, we can feel unsatisfied and it can lead to cheating, resentment or even post coital dysphoria. Post Coital Dysphoria” is the feeling of sadness, anxiety, agitation or aggression, after sexual intercourse or masturbation.” Depriving yourself of your kink is depriving yourself of pleasure and fun! You are normal to have them and you should be able to share this part of yourself without feeling shame.

Whether you know the kink or you want to try a new kink with your partner, here are some tips to introducing it to them.

1. Communicate

Communicate!!!! Talk about your kink with your partner and explain to them how it came about. Your partner will be much more understanding and willing to explore it if they understand why it turns you on. Communicate what exactly you want to do and how you want it to be done so that there are no surprises. This is also a great opportunity for you to get your partner to talk about their kinks if they were afraid to talk about it in the first place.

If communicating this formally seems intimidating to you, try dirty talking your desires. It’s hard to resist something when you’re already in the moment ;).

2. Show them the Porn Version

Hearing the word kink or BDSM can be deceiving. Most of the time when people hear those words they think they have to act as a slave or get their balls kicked in. I know my boyfriend did. Show them that it’s not what they think by showing the porn version of it. It’s easier for someone to get on board with something when they see other people enjoying it.

3. Explore through Different Kinks Together

There are so many kinks. The list goes on and on. Skim through it with your partner to see what interests you both. You might be able to discover the names to the kinks you already have or even discover new ones. To make it easier, try taking the BDSM test together and share your results. If you have something in common, definitely dive into that!

4. Baby Steps

If your partner is on the fence with your kink, you might want to start off with baby steps. Educate your partner on BDSM/kink. Let them know the benefits of it and let them know the pleasure will be mutual. What’s great about BDSM/kink is that the community is strict with consent. Reassure them that you won’t do anything they aren’t comfortable with.

5. Prepare for a Negative Reaction

Unfortunately, no matter how much you explain to someone your kinks, they’ll never understand it. At this point, it’s up to you if you want to continue this relationship. If you feel in your heart that this kink is part of you and this is the only way you can be fully satisfied, they might not be the right one for you. I think if anyone who loves you, they will at least try to make it work even if they have to do it in baby steps.

Don’t settle when it comes to your sexuality. That is your part of your power and if it’s taken away from you, you might feel short in other aspects of your life. I’ll leave you here with an excerpt from Audre Lorde’s essay, The Uses of Erotic: The Erotic is Power,

“But when we begin to live from within outward, in touch with the power of the erotic within ourselves, and allowing that power to inform and illuminate our actions upon the world around us, then we begin to be responsible to ourselves in the deepest sense. For as we begin to recognize our deepest feelings, we beg

in to give up, of necessity, being satisfied with suffering and self-negation, and with the numbness which so often seems like their only alternative in our society. Our acts against oppression become integral with self, motivated and empowered from within.”

(Please read her essay if you haven’t. It’s such a beautiful piece!)

Stay Sexy & Curious!

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Ethical Porn sites For Women

Are you trying to get into porn but you can’t find anything that turns you on? Ethical Porn sites might be for you.

I love hardcore nasty degrading porn. That is one of my kinks I developed over time. Keyword, “overtime.” I came to like this type of porn after watching so many different types of categories, different porno productions, and different websites. It wasn’t always easy finding the type of porn that worked for me especially when I was younger and trying to get into it. Now, I love porn! In my opinion, it’s one of the greatest ways to explore your sexuality. It allows you to be curious and helps with fantasizing during masturbation. If you are just getting into porn, I’m here for you!

I started watching porn around middle school. I was a horny little kid. While I knew I wanted to watch something sexy, I knew that I didn’t want it to be too sexy.

At the time, penetrative sex was considered too hardcore for me.

I figured I was only 13 and I wouldn’t be fucking like that until later on in life. I stuck to three main categories. lesbian porn, best sex scenes in movies and mastubation porn. They were sexy but still innocent enough for me to enjoy at the time.

While those satisfied me for a little, I was more disappointed with the categories that I couldn’t find which was kissing, sensual and basically anything that was “lovey dovey” sex. I was trying to look for porn that would ease me into it. Something that looked relatable and real. I had a hard time looking for my fantasy.

If you’re getting into porn and you are having a hard time looking for something that turns you on, it’s probably because most mainstream porn is made for cis-gender men. It is mostly fulfilling their fantasies and not yours. Not all of us want to imagine being deep throated, choked, or being fucked like a rabbit.

Unlike men who are more visual, women need to be stimulated in the mind to achieve any type of orgasm or pleasure. While there are plenty of women who enjoy mainstream porn, there are many who prefer to watch porn that is sensual and women focused.

It is now only in the last couple of years women are realizing that they deserve pleasure too. We are seeing a rise in sex toys made specifically to make women cum. This just shows how much we love to cum and how much we love having sex! As a result, we are seeing more women creating porn for women. It’s about time!

Finally, women are making it easier for other women to enjoy watching porn. Porn created by women is not your typical porn you would see on pornhub, xxxvideos, redtube, etc. You’ll notice these porn focuses more on the woman’s pleasure. It focuses more on what a woman would fantasize rather than what a man would. This includes authenticity, connection between partners and mutual respect.

If you are looking for sexy masturbation material and typical porn is not working for you, try these feminist porn sites. I’m sure you will have an easier time finding your fantasy there. Unfortunately, alot of these feminist porn is not for free but you can definitely count on them for being produced ethically.

I’m a huge porn advocate if it works for you. If you like hardcore sex or if you like soft core sex embrace that shit! I think porn has a bad rep because people look at it in the wrong way. I think porn should be used to help embrace your sexuality. I view it as a performance more than an education. I think it’s an act these performers are paid to do because they can do it. Their body was made for this. So don’t compare yourself to these porn stars. Instead, be curious and try out the things that spark your interest. But never, ever compare! Don’t feel too bad if you can’t stick two massive dildos in your booty hole unless that’s something you want to try, then go for it.

TIP: Try watching porn with your partner then point out all of the things you want to try. Since men are more visual, they will have a better understanding on how to make you cum easier.

Ethical Porn sites

Stay Sexy & Curious!

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What’s your favorite porn site for ethical porn? Comment below.

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