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Sex Tip Tuesday: Make Sure you are Turned On Before Masturbating

I’m back with a sex tip on Tuesday! I know I’ve been slacking a little with the posts but I’m here! I’m doing it!! I sound like Michael Kosta on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah ” I’ve got a big tip for you!” and never gives a tip. Okay I digress.

So the sex tip for this Tuesday is to make sure you are turned on before trying to masturbate.

Turned on, horny, hot and bothered, whatever you want to call it, you need to prepare your body for sexy. I thought about this tip this weekend when I was trying to masturbate before going to bed to get tired. I think this is a better way to get sleepy instead of melatonin. Who doesn’t want a good orgasm before bed?

So I’m there laying in bed with my boyfriend who’s exhausted from all his man work during the day. Usually I’ll bug him to fuck me, but I decided I’d be nice that night and let him rest. This is never a problem with me because there’s nights where a good ol vibrator will do the job. Especially when there are times when I just want to cum and avoid all the extra sweat and having to wipe jizz off me.

I proceed to roll over and get my “go to” vibrator, the Satisfyer ( Use my code SEXISH for 10% off!) . I put it on my clit and it’s slightly uncomfortable at first. I figured it’s just the position so I move it around to get it to where it feels just right.

Finally, I get it right and I’m laying there waiting to cum. I’m doing everything to speed up the process. I’m thrusting my hips, I’m shaking the vibrator, I’m increasing the intensity and nothing. I can’t get myself to cum. It’s been 10 minutes and I’m starting to think there’s something wrong with my Satisfyer!

After attempting to cum, I turn off my vibrator and take a beat. I try to think about all the sexy images that are in my head. That includes times when my boyfriend has made me cum hard, sexy porn clips that I masturbated to, sexy people I’ve seen on the streets, hot sex scenes, and even my boyfriends sexy ass body next to mine.

Once I’ve got a moment in my head, I close my eyes and try to remember every detail. The smell, how it felt, what I saw, the taste. I would suggest thinking about one moment at a time as several moments can turn into a cluster fuck which is the not as sexy as it sounds.

Once I felt like I was in the moment, I started to touch myself. From my inner thighs, to my stomach then to my breasts. I started to squeeze my nipples as if it were my boyfriend doing it. That’s when I grabbed my Satisfyer and went to work. Luckily, my boyfriend’s body was there to touch as I played with myself which helped me cum so much faster. Oh my goodness it was perfect!

I ended up falling asleep with my vibrator in my hand and let’s just say I’m glad I let my boyfriend rest that night because he had all the energy the next morning!

So, the next time you masturbate and you find yourself having a hard time cumming, try taking a beat and make sure you are horny first. Unlike men who just need a hard dick to cum, we need to be in the right head space. Our mind and our body have to be in sync.

If you find yourself having a hard time coming up with something visual in your head, put on porn! There’s porn for everyone!

I hope this helps you the next time you masturbate!

Stay Sexy & Curious!

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Masturbation Tip: Masturbate with your Partner

It’s still May which means I’m back with another masturbation tip. Today’s tip is to masturbate with your partner. If you’re looking for a way to have a more intimate relationship, including your partner in your masturbation session might do that. I love including my partner in the things that I love doing. It gives him a chance to see me in another light, a sexier light.

When we’re alone masturbating, we let go and we’re in a vulnerable state. Think about the last time you were vulnerable and you let your partner in. I bet it felt so good to just be yourself. You even probably ended up being much closer emotionally. Masturbating together can do the same.

When you’re alone, it’s easier to be your sexiest self. No one is there to judge you and tell you you’re doing something wrong. So it’s important you do this with someone you really trust. You’re allowing someone to be in your vulnerable space and they should be deserving of it.


Bring this topic up with your partner. Let them know you want to try something new and how you think it will bring you guys closer.

Put on something sexy to watch together. Make this part fun by looking for the perfect porn to watch together. You never want your partner to feel like what you’re watching is one sided. This can hurt their feelings and do the opposite of what you are trying to achieve.

Once you start to feel sexy, start to masturbate. If this is your first time, it will feel a little awkward. Don’t worry, just breathe. At first, try to pretend your partner isn’t there to get comfortable with the fact someone else is in the room with you.

– As you start to get comfortable and you’re both masturbating in your own worlds, often glance at each other. Admire how sexy your partner looks. Be so grateful that your partner is able to be their sexiest self with you.

Use this opportunity to be aware of how your partner pleasures themselves. Take note so that you can do this to them the next time you have sex. I love it whenever I can feel the same feelings when I masturbate during sex. Masturbating feels so good sometimes that it feels like no one else can make you feel the same way.

Masturbating with your partner is a great way to get closer with each other sexually. It opens the doors to other sexual discoveries. It helps you build a stronger relationship, discover new ways to pleasure each other, and it also makes for an intense foreplay. As you watch your partner feel sexier and sexier, the more you’ll want to hop on them and hump their brains out.

The next time you want to add spice to the bedroom, try to bring this up with your partner. You’ll be surprised with the feelings that come up when you bring someone into your space.

Stay Sexy & Curious!

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Masturbation Tip: Breathe in and out


It’s Masturbation Month!! I hope you guys have been masturbating so much that your clit is begging you to stop. In honor of Masturbation Month, I am here with a tip to make your masturbation session more intense!

If you know me, I love to masturbate and I’m a huge advocate for it.

Masturbating was there for me when I was dickless and horny.

It gave me an opportunity to learn more about my body and what feels good to me. While there are times when I just want to bust a nut and fall asleep, there are other times when I have time to have a full masturbation session. When I say full masturbation session, I mean, I have time to dim the lights, play music in the background, and practice my breathing.

Which brings me to my tip for masturbating.

Bring your breathing practice from yoga to your masturbation sessions.

In yoga, they tell you to breathe in for a number of counts and breathe out for a number of counts. It’s all about taking control of your breaths which leads you to getting into a deeper stretch as well as being present.

I feel whenever I’m masturbating, I always have a goal to cum which makes me do the most like breathing extra hard when it’s not necessary. I find myself doing this during sex too and I noticed that it takes me away from being present. Instead of being in the moment and feeling all the sensations, I’m busy trying to put on a performance.

After practicing my breathing during masturbating, I’ve been having stronger and more orgasmic ORGASMS (can I say that?) with myself and with my partner!

The next time you have time to explore your body, try to masturbate to feel all the sensations instead of masturbating to cum.

What to do:

– Before masturbating, make sure you’re turned on. Going straight to your pussy will be uncomfortable. Put on a playlist to get you in the mood while also helping your breathing by breathing to the beat.

– Once you feel you’re turned on, start to breathe in for 4 slow counts through your nose. 1…2…3…4… Then breathe out for 4 slow counts out through your mouth, 1…2…3…4…

– When you feel like you’ve got a good rhythm going on start to touch your body sensually. Make sure to notice how each touch feels on your body. If you’re using a toy, try to start out at the lowest setting and work your way up.

Make sure to breathe in and out with every touch. Take your time with this. There is no rush. You’ll start to notice yourself becoming more present which will make each touch feel more intense.

– Continue until satisfied. 😉

As soon as you master this with yourself, you can bring your partner in which can lead to tantric sex. “Tantric sex is a slow, meditative form of sex where the end goal is not orgasm but enjoying the sexual journey and sensations of the body. It aims to move sexual energy throughout the body for healing, transformation, and enlightenment.” .

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Happy cumming!

Stay Sexy & Stay Curious!


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