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Sex Tip Tuesday: Make Sure you are Turned On Before Masturbating

I’m back with a sex tip on Tuesday! I know I’ve been slacking a little with the posts but I’m here! I’m doing it!! I sound like Michael Kosta on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah ” I’ve got a big tip for you!” and never gives a tip. Okay I digress.

So the sex tip for this Tuesday is to make sure you are turned on before trying to masturbate.

Turned on, horny, hot and bothered, whatever you want to call it, you need to prepare your body for sexy. I thought about this tip this weekend when I was trying to masturbate before going to bed to get tired. I think this is a better way to get sleepy instead of melatonin. Who doesn’t want a good orgasm before bed?

So I’m there laying in bed with my boyfriend who’s exhausted from all his man work during the day. Usually I’ll bug him to fuck me, but I decided I’d be nice that night and let him rest. This is never a problem with me because there’s nights where a good ol vibrator will do the job. Especially when there are times when I just want to cum and avoid all the extra sweat and having to wipe jizz off me.

I proceed to roll over and get my “go to” vibrator, the Satisfyer ( Use my code SEXISH for 10% off!) . I put it on my clit and it’s slightly uncomfortable at first. I figured it’s just the position so I move it around to get it to where it feels just right.

Finally, I get it right and I’m laying there waiting to cum. I’m doing everything to speed up the process. I’m thrusting my hips, I’m shaking the vibrator, I’m increasing the intensity and nothing. I can’t get myself to cum. It’s been 10 minutes and I’m starting to think there’s something wrong with my Satisfyer!

After attempting to cum, I turn off my vibrator and take a beat. I try to think about all the sexy images that are in my head. That includes times when my boyfriend has made me cum hard, sexy porn clips that I masturbated to, sexy people I’ve seen on the streets, hot sex scenes, and even my boyfriends sexy ass body next to mine.

Once I’ve got a moment in my head, I close my eyes and try to remember every detail. The smell, how it felt, what I saw, the taste. I would suggest thinking about one moment at a time as several moments can turn into a cluster fuck which is the not as sexy as it sounds.

Once I felt like I was in the moment, I started to touch myself. From my inner thighs, to my stomach then to my breasts. I started to squeeze my nipples as if it were my boyfriend doing it. That’s when I grabbed my Satisfyer and went to work. Luckily, my boyfriend’s body was there to touch as I played with myself which helped me cum so much faster. Oh my goodness it was perfect!

I ended up falling asleep with my vibrator in my hand and let’s just say I’m glad I let my boyfriend rest that night because he had all the energy the next morning!

So, the next time you masturbate and you find yourself having a hard time cumming, try taking a beat and make sure you are horny first. Unlike men who just need a hard dick to cum, we need to be in the right head space. Our mind and our body have to be in sync.

If you find yourself having a hard time coming up with something visual in your head, put on porn! There’s porn for everyone!

I hope this helps you the next time you masturbate!

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Sex Tip Tuesday: Work on yourself

Chillin in the jacuzzi

Sex Tip Tuesday! I’m going to try to make this a consistent thing so it’s something you look forward to. So please, hold me accountable and ask me for my tits, I mean TIPS if you don’t see it on Tuesday.

Tip: If you’re looking to have better sex , start with working on yourself.

Having good sex doesn’t start with blaming anyone in your life. I don’t care if it’s because your partner’s head game sucks, they’re wearing the wrong sized condom, they can’t last in bed. Blaming them for those things won’t help you have better sex with them.

It actually starts with yourself and being honest with yourself. It’s easier to blame someone for our sufferings instead of confronting them. The next time you’re going through something and it’s interfering with your sex life, really dive into why you’re feeling like that.

What does being honest with yourself look like?

– Admitting to yourself you’re insecure about something.

When we’re insecure, it’s easy for us to project it on to our partners which causes us to become bitter. How can you identify this insecurity and over come it?

– Admitting to yourself that you have never had an orgasm and you don’t know what that feels like.

It’s completely normal for a woman to feel like they’ve never orgasmed. About 4 out of 10 Americans say they’ve never had an orgasm. This has to do with so many factors from sexual history, lack of knowledge about the body, your day, medications, etc. So admitting this to yourself and to your partner will help you create a space that will open it to learning and discovering what feels good for you together. Dj Envy’s wife admitted to him that she was faking her orgasms for 10 years! I’m happy to say she is cumming now.

– What does love look like? What does it feel like?

Sometimes being in a relationship, we feel we know what love is but we still feel like something is off. Dive into why you feel like that. Defining your values in a relationship will help you come up with the answers.

– Admitting you’re afraid of the response if you speak up and say something.

Being honest with yourself by telling yourself that you’re afraid of speaking up is the first step. Why are you afraid? Tell yourself, if your partner doesn’t respond with respect and empathy then maybe he’s not the one for you. Could that be the reason why you’re not having the best sex?

– Telling yourself a position doesn’t feel good and then telling your partner.

When you’re honest with yourself, you can start to identify what feels good to you and what doesn’t. Once you can identify that, you can say something. It doesn’t have to ruin the mood. Remember you can always ask what you want in bed in a sexy way.

As you can see, being honest with yourself will help you identify why you’re really suffering. It’s not easy being vulnerable but it’s worth it. Knowing yourself is key to great sex and even a great life. If you know yourself it’s hard for anyone to break you.

“Stand for something or die in the morning”- Kendrick Lamar.

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