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How to Make Missionary Sex more Exciting

If missionary position was an actual person, I’d feel bad for them because of their bad reputation. No one thinks freaky, sexy when it comes to missionary, they think boring, lazy and vanilla. I have a feeling most people feel this way about missionary because they’ve had a bad experience where they felt the person fucking them was the only one enjoying the moment.

It’s especially easy to feel that way when you feel you have no control in the position. I understand because I’ve been in that situation before. I’m a tiny person and my type is 6 foot and up and built so you can imagine how small I can feel. It wasn’t until I switched the role where I was in control even if I was on the bottom that made me start to like missionary.

Since I started taking control of my sex life, I refuse to not orgasm. I believe that if my partner is going to cum, I’m going to cum, too. Of course, there are instances where I just want my partner to cum because his pleasure matters to me but for the most part, I am going to have an orgasm regardless. So because of that mindset I set for myself, I had to make missionary position work for me.

I’m happy to say while missionary position isn’t my favorite position, it’s not my least favorite. I actually think I have some bomb ass missionary sex. There are times where I’m even shocked by how many times I’ve cum in that position.

So here I am, Theresa, about to put missionary sex back on the map!

When I talk about missionary sex, missionary position, I’m talking about a person on the bottom while someone is on top penetrating them. Typically a man on top of a woman but it’s 2022 that can be anyone now.

Missionary position is one of the most underrated position as we forget the benefits of it. We forget that it’s a great starter position for any sex activity, it’s an intimate position, and it’s less effort for days you’re not trying to have a full on fuck session.

How to make missionary sex more exciting

Add sex toys – adding sex toys to any sex position always makes it more exciting including missionary. Grab your favorite vibrator and use it on your clit while he’s in you. Your orgasm will be so strong you’ll forget you hate the missionary position. Not only will you be satisfied but your partner will love watching you close up while you are orgasming on his dick. Check out my post on sex toys for beginners.

If using a vibrator is uncomfortable to use while in the missionary position, try using a butt plug to wake up the nerves in your bootyhole.

Switch up the Angles – When I’m on the bottom, I get in angles that work for me. Which means I get in positions that are either rubbing against my clit or I get in a position where his dick can get in deeper.

If you’re looking for more of a clit stimulation, try holding on to his booty while you grind your pelvic on his. Adjust yourself so that your clit is rubbing against him. Imagine dancehall music in the background and you’re trying to grind on him until he cums. Holding on to his booty will help you have more control with the movement so that you can determine how you want your clit to be rubbed. I like to think of it as me fucking him instead of him fucking me.

To get in a deeper angle, I like to get in the happy baby yoga stretch position. While he’s in you, bend your knees and grab the outside of your feet. Then, flex your feet up into your hands while spreading your knees apart. I find that in this position not only am I getting a deeper penetration which stimulates my G-spot more but it also makes keegling on his dick easier. The harder I flex my feet into my hands, the harder my keegle is on his dick.

Try other angles especially if you’re flexible. Take advantage of those yoga stretches you know and bring them to bed. If you can bring your legs behind your head, do that. Your partner will be impressed by your moves.

Make out more- Since you’re already in this intimate position might as well make it more interesting by making out more in between. The next time you’re in missionary, try making out passionately by using your entire body. Grab on to his head, his butt, and touch his entire body while you tongue each other down. I find making out more in between builds the moment up.  Also, don’t forget to kiss on each other’s necks!

Talk dirty to each other – Feedback and communication is always sexy in any position. If you like something that your partner is doing, make sure to let them know so that they continue to do what you like. You can also use this opportunity to communicate what you don’t like so you don’t feel like you’re stuck down there. Check out my post on dirty talk to help you come up with things to say during sex

Just let go- I find when I’m in the missionary position and I let go and focus on every thrust instead of how much I don’t like the position, I have a much more satisfying time. Next time, allow yourself to be free by letting whatever noise comes out of you and by moving the way your body wants to move. Don’t force anything and just let it happen.

Touch yourself- If you don’t have toys, you can always take it back to the old school way and use your hands! While you’re on the bottom, you can make it worth your time by touching your erogenous zones like your nipples, your neck, and your ears. Touch yourself the way you’d want to be touched since you know best what turns you on. If you don’t, that means you need to masturbate more. Check out my tips on masturbating!

Play with your partner’s butt: If you have access to his booty, play with it! Men secretly love when you worship their body too.

You see, missionary sex can be fun and exciting! You just need to change your mindset on it and know that you can be in control too.

Do you have any tips on how to make missionary sex more exciting? Comment below!

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Sacred Squirter by Yoni Palace Review

Happy Thursday!

The moment you’ve all been waiting for, or not but I have, is finally The Sacred Squirter by Yoni Palace review. I briefly talked about the unboxing of the toy and how I came to find it back in May.


– I found this toy browsing on Instagram

– The founder of Yoni Palace is HOT, (Rosie Rees)

– The name of the toy sold me

– This product came from Australia


Yoni Pleasure Palace is a luxurious online retailer of pleasure wands, yoni eggs, waterproof sex blankets and feminine wellness products.

Their mission is to help women strengthen their pelvic floors in order to “inspire women to slow down (and squirt!).”


The Sacred Squirter is a tongue shaped glass dildo. It’s curves and bumps are designed to help vagina owners hit their G-spot. The dildo is hand blown and made with borosilicate glass. Think beakers, flasks and other glass materials used in a laboratory. This means that it is temperature responsive in which the toy will not shatter under extreme heat or extreme cold aka perfect for TEMPERATURE PLAY.

First Impression:

Opening the package to my Sacred Squirter, I immediately felt like my chakras were jumping with excitement. It felt and looked sacred.

Once I got over how beautiful it was and started to think about using it, I was a little intimidated by the glass, the shape, and the ridges. Before the Sacred Squirter, I had never used a glass dildo before. If anything, I was just getting comfortable playing with my dildos. But if I learned anything from my dildo experience, it’s all about quality that makes a toy worth it which is what I felt immediately when I held it in my hands. I had bought the Sacred Squirter for $94 at the time which now has dropped to $69! Still pricey but quality is expected with that price.

The shape didn’t scare me so much more than turn me on. If you can use your imagination and picture your partner or someone you think is hot with that tongue, urgh you’d melt! I don’t know about you but I would be very eager to find out what that mouth can do.

As for the ridges, I was a little skeptical. I’ve had toys where it came with different texture heads and never found them useful or pleasurable.


After a month of having it, I decided to finally give it a try. I knew when I was ready to try the toy, I wanted to be intentional with it. That meant doing it when I was in an exploring type of mood. I think when it comes to squirting there are two things that are a must to achieve it. One, your mind and how relaxed it is. If your mind is on what class you’re going to take on classpass the next day, you’ll never get there. Second, is giving yourself permission to let go. That means losing control and having 0 expectations of what is to come (pun intended). Be open to squirting and be open to failing. Just tell yourself whatever happens it’s going to be okay.

DUN DUN DUNN (I tried it!)

Okay, it’s time. I’m horny. I’m in an exploring type of mood. I’m alone in the apartment. The moment is perfect.

I get everything I need to prepare for this moment. I have my Sacred Squirter, I have my Satisfyer pro (just incase I need assistance), a towel, laptop, and LUBE!

First, I put on porn I like. Then I used my hands to start to teasing myself. I caress my thighs, my stomach, my boobs, and then lightly around my pussy. As soon as I started to feel myself getting wet, I grabbed my Sacred Squirter and started rubbing it against my pussy. Up and down, side to side. Already, I’m feeling a sensation that I’ve never felt before. I’ve used vibrators and dildos to rub my pussy with in the past but this felt different. It was a combination of how heavy the glass was, the ridges and the temperature of the glass. It slid around my pussy effortlessly.

URGH! If that’s how it felt outside of my pussy I couldn’t wait to feel it inside. When I first put it in, the feeling was almost too intense and it was probably because my G-spot was gorging from just the rubbing.

I had to slow it down. I found that taking my time with it was more pleasurable than jamming it in as I would normally do with a dildo. The ridges and the shape of the dildo was hitting the spot perfectly. It was surprisingly very comfortable as most G-spot toys aren’t for me.

Every second of the experience was exhilarating. One of my favorite parts of the toy is that there is an indent in the middle of the tongue where you can see your squirt piling.

Let’s be real, not all of us is a “squirter” where we pee out a fountain. Some of us are gushers where your cum squeeze out like the candy fruit gushers. However you end up cuming, I’m sure you will be able to see your results on the toy. And if you’re anything like me you like to see your hard work.

Did I squirt?

I’ve never been a squirter. All of the guys that I’ve been with have always said something similar whenever I came which was ” a liquid poured out/gushed out.” So I wasn’t surprised when I didn’t get my pornstar squirt moment. But I am not going to let that bring me down. I will try and try until I get it which is not the worst thing to keep on attempting.

How to use it?

There is no right or wrong way to use this toy. I’ve used this toy alone and with my partner. There is no experience that is better than the other in my opinion. I both love to masturbate alone and with my partner.

I do bring this out on more sensual moments as I do not want to drop this toy because crazy can get too crazy sometimes.

Is this for you?

If you are curious about squirting, this toy is for you. I feel that everything about the structure of this glass dildo helps you in achieving that. Also, if you don’t own a glass toy , I suggest that you give it a try. You’ll be surprised with the different sensations you feel versus what you feel from any other toy.

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Glass Toy alternatives

While there are plenty of glass toy alternatives it is important that you do your own research on them. You want to make sure that you are getting your toys from a trusted company and that they are using body safe materials. So be careful when choosing toys that are “cheap.”

I hope this review was helpful! I really enjoyed and still am enjoying this toy till this day. Man, I might have to use it after I get off here. I’m all hot and bothered from my own review! 😂

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Masturbating Sex Toys for Beginners

Okay I’m realizing not everyone started masturbating at the age of 12 like I did but, hey the fact that you’re starting now is all that matters. I’m so proud of you for even having the curiosity of pleasure!

Masturbating means to stimulate ones own genitals for sexual pleasure.

Masturbating means to stimulate ones own genitals for sexual pleasure. Keyword here is “sexual pleasure” and that definition is different for everyone. One way of masturbating can turn someone on while it can turn someone else off.

Masturbating is amazing in that there are so many ways you can masturbate!

You can take it old school and use your hands, use toys, do it with a partner, or use household objects like pillows, etc. There’s an infinite way of masturbating and there is no right way. It’s worth to try all the ways until you find something you find extreme pleasure in.

Not only does masturbating come with great health benefits but I find it helps with your self-esteem and your sex life. With masturbating you’re essentially touching yourself and giving yourself pleasure because you want to feel good. You feel you deserve to feel good. It’s time for you to worship your body. When you love your body, you tend to take care of it more and make sure that nothing bad happens to it.

When you masturbate, you also figure out what feels good for you. This can be great when it comes to having sex with your partner. You’ll know what works for you instead of lying there and having to pretend you like what he’s doing when you don’t. You’ll be able to take charge and say “Nope. I like it this way!”

Unfortunately, some of us grew up being told masturbating was wrong and disgusting and it’s just not true. We all do it! There’s some who do it everyday, once a week, once a month and sometimes never which is also okay. As long as you’re not doing it because someone told you it’s bad then it’s all good!

Planned Parenthood lists some benefits of masturbating…

  • release sexual tension
  • reduce stress
  • help you sleep better
  • improve your self-esteem and body image
  • help treat sexual problems
  • relieve menstrual cramps and muscle tension
  • strengthen muscle tone in your pelvic and anal areas

Now time for my list! If you’re new to masturbating touching yourself with your bare hands can be awkward at first. Although, I do recommend you touching yourself that way first, it’s not ideal for some. Luckily for you, there are toys out there for everyone! The toys listed below range from comfortability all the way to power that a new masturbator can with stand.

The Satisfyer

I recommend this toy to all my friends who are looking for a new addition to their toy chest. It’s a must have! I take this bad boy out whenever I’m in a sexy mood. I love that this has 11 different intensities so if you’re new to the masturbating game, you can still feel the air pulse without it being so overbearing. I can’t wait for when you are ready for that intense setting though. Wooooooo. Oh last thing, this toy is waterproof! You can take this in the shower which makes the experience 100x better.

The price on this isn’t bad at all, I think it’s pretty reasonable. You can even use my discount code SEXISH on Shopsedure.com to get 10% off your order.

iroha by TENGA

While this toy is disposable, it’s a great toy for beginners who’s experimenting with different sensations. This toy is 98% water which gives you another feel besides silicone. You can warm it in your hands or put in the fridge for temperature play.


Introducing LELO’s new toy, LELO DOT. Did you know masturbating doesn’t have to only be with your pussy? You can masturbate touching your titties, your stomach, your arms, whatever brings you pleasure. I love that this toy is different. Unlike other vibrators with a penis like shaped head, it has a pointy end which makes it easier to reach erogenous zones like your neck, behind your ear, your nipples, and in between your thighs. If you want to tease yourself before you get into it, this is the toy!


If it’s the scary shapes of toys that scare you to masturbate, try toys from Cute Little Fuckers. This toy shape allows you to easily grip it from behind as you move it along your body. Masturbating can be cute too!

Fin by Dame

Dame products is know for its simple design. Most of their toys don’t even look like vibrators which makes it easy to get away with if you forget to put it away after a session. This is great for beginners as it only has 3 speed variations. This takes fingering to another level. The pleasure is limitless.

I hope that you can find the perfect toy for you on your sexual journey. There are so many out there that it might take you a while to find the perfect one. But, what no one talks about is that the journey to finding one is actually the fun part! Part 2 of this post will be different ways to masturbate without a toy! How exciting?

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