If missionary position was an actual person, I’d feel bad for them because of their bad reputation. No one thinks freaky, sexy when it comes to missionary, they think boring, lazy and vanilla. I have a feeling most people feel this way about missionary because they’ve had a bad experience where they felt the person fucking them was the only one enjoying the moment.
It’s especially easy to feel that way when you feel you have no control in the position. I understand because I’ve been in that situation before. I’m a tiny person and my type is 6 foot and up and built so you can imagine how small I can feel. It wasn’t until I switched the role where I was in control even if I was on the bottom that made me start to like missionary.
Since I started taking control of my sex life, I refuse to not orgasm. I believe that if my partner is going to cum, I’m going to cum, too. Of course, there are instances where I just want my partner to cum because his pleasure matters to me but for the most part, I am going to have an orgasm regardless. So because of that mindset I set for myself, I had to make missionary position work for me.
I’m happy to say while missionary position isn’t my favorite position, it’s not my least favorite. I actually think I have some bomb ass missionary sex. There are times where I’m even shocked by how many times I’ve cum in that position.
So here I am, Theresa, about to put missionary sex back on the map!
When I talk about missionary sex, missionary position, I’m talking about a person on the bottom while someone is on top penetrating them. Typically a man on top of a woman but it’s 2022 that can be anyone now.
Missionary position is one of the most underrated position as we forget the benefits of it. We forget that it’s a great starter position for any sex activity, it’s an intimate position, and it’s less effort for days you’re not trying to have a full on fuck session.
How to make missionary sex more exciting
Add sex toys – adding sex toys to any sex position always makes it more exciting including missionary. Grab your favorite vibrator and use it on your clit while he’s in you. Your orgasm will be so strong you’ll forget you hate the missionary position. Not only will you be satisfied but your partner will love watching you close up while you are orgasming on his dick. Check out my post on sex toys for beginners.
If using a vibrator is uncomfortable to use while in the missionary position, try using a butt plug to wake up the nerves in your bootyhole.
Switch up the Angles – When I’m on the bottom, I get in angles that work for me. Which means I get in positions that are either rubbing against my clit or I get in a position where his dick can get in deeper.
If you’re looking for more of a clit stimulation, try holding on to his booty while you grind your pelvic on his. Adjust yourself so that your clit is rubbing against him. Imagine dancehall music in the background and you’re trying to grind on him until he cums. Holding on to his booty will help you have more control with the movement so that you can determine how you want your clit to be rubbed. I like to think of it as me fucking him instead of him fucking me.
To get in a deeper angle, I like to get in the happy baby yoga stretch position. While he’s in you, bend your knees and grab the outside of your feet. Then, flex your feet up into your hands while spreading your knees apart. I find that in this position not only am I getting a deeper penetration which stimulates my G-spot more but it also makes keegling on his dick easier. The harder I flex my feet into my hands, the harder my keegle is on his dick.
Try other angles especially if you’re flexible. Take advantage of those yoga stretches you know and bring them to bed. If you can bring your legs behind your head, do that. Your partner will be impressed by your moves.
Make out more- Since you’re already in this intimate position might as well make it more interesting by making out more in between. The next time you’re in missionary, try making out passionately by using your entire body. Grab on to his head, his butt, and touch his entire body while you tongue each other down. I find making out more in between builds the moment up. Also, don’t forget to kiss on each other’s necks!
Talk dirty to each other – Feedback and communication is always sexy in any position. If you like something that your partner is doing, make sure to let them know so that they continue to do what you like. You can also use this opportunity to communicate what you don’t like so you don’t feel like you’re stuck down there. Check out my post on dirty talk to help you come up with things to say during sex
Just let go- I find when I’m in the missionary position and I let go and focus on every thrust instead of how much I don’t like the position, I have a much more satisfying time. Next time, allow yourself to be free by letting whatever noise comes out of you and by moving the way your body wants to move. Don’t force anything and just let it happen.
Touch yourself- If you don’t have toys, you can always take it back to the old school way and use your hands! While you’re on the bottom, you can make it worth your time by touching your erogenous zones like your nipples, your neck, and your ears. Touch yourself the way you’d want to be touched since you know best what turns you on. If you don’t, that means you need to masturbate more. Check out my tips on masturbating!
Play with your partner’s butt: If you have access to his booty, play with it! Men secretly love when you worship their body too.
You see, missionary sex can be fun and exciting! You just need to change your mindset on it and know that you can be in control too.
Do you have any tips on how to make missionary sex more exciting? Comment below!
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