Month: January 2023

Sometime’s a Small dick is all You Need

I love my friends back home in New York because they’re like me. They love to talk about sex! There is no such thing as too much information about our sex lives. Which is why this weekend my friend did not hesitate to send me a voice memo that she is messing with a “Short Dick King.”

“It was the best- that I’ve had for a very long time.” ” I believe there are certain dicks that are made for certain vaginas.”

Of course the jokes of “small dicks” flooded the chat but in all seriousness, I think she had something going when she said that certain dicks are made for certain vaginas.

I, myself, love me a big, long, thick dick even when there are times when I think my pussy can’t handle it. Personally, that’s the part I like. I like the struggle and the small amount of pain I endure when it’s half way in. That is what extra extra lube is for!

Give Small Dicks a Chance

While I’ve had my fair share of big ol’ dicks, I’ve also had experiences with smallish to medium size dicks. Not all of my experiences were terrible which is why I think we need to give them more credit.

When I think about those times, I remember my pussy being much wetter. It was very slippery. My pussy had to do less work to make it work and my pussy wasn’t mad at that.

Porn & Big Dicks

We always talk about women comparing themselves to pornstars and we forget men do it too. Just like porn makes some women feel insecure about their performance, porn makes men feel insecure about their dick size. Imagine them seeing a women screaming with pleasure because they’re being dicked down by a gigantic dick. Who wouldn’t feel some type of way from it.

Male pornstars are performers too! They are sought out for one thing and one thing only, their dick size. That is why you’ll notice most of the men are not really attractive. But who’s looking at them anyways? (no offense)

In reality, finding a big dick like the ones on BLACKED is a rare find. And when one does find one, it’s often intimidating and uncomfortable.

Women are coming out about pain

I’m starting to notice that more women are coming out about pain during sex and it’s because some dicks are too painful for women to handle. Which is normal! I encourage more women to talk about their pain during sex because there is too much noise from society on what type of dick we should be enjoying.

Luckily there are accessories to add during sex if you want to adjust the depth of how deep a dick can go. Check out Ohnut if you are experiencing this pain.

Consistent pain during sex is not normal and you should consult with a doctor if you’re experiencing this.

Benefits of Small Dicks

Big dicks has it’s perks but don’t sleep on the smaller dicks! They have their own benefits too. Let us normalize smaller dick sizes because that is most of the population. I want to hear more, “I loved the small/medium size dick I had last night!”

With the right positions and right moves, you will be able to cum just as hard as you would with a big dick. You might even find that you have more fun after experiencing one!

1. Giving a blowjob : If you give blowjobs, the idea of deep throating a dick has crossed your mind. For some, it’s a goal and for some, it feels impossible to attempt because all they’ve ever been faced with are big dicks. Luckily with a smaller dick, your blowjob skills will go from 0-100 real quick!

What you couldn’t do to a big dick before you can do to a smaller dick but even better. Your man will be so impressed seeing you take their entire dick in your mouth.

TIP: When you have his dick in your mouth tell him how good it feels to boost his confidence. Remember, the more confident you feel the better you will perform. Check out my post on Ways to boost your confidence during sex.

2. Anal sex won’t hurt as much: The reason for most painful anal sex is from the insertion of a large object/large dick in a small bootyhole. It also doesn’t help that most people feel intimidated by the act which will make it more difficult to relax in the situation.

With a smaller dick, pain will obviously be less painful due to the size. So if you’ve been wanting to try anal, get yourself a small dick. Don’t forget the lube! You’ll still need it even with a smaller dick.

3. Your pussy stays wet longer: It’s a fact that when you have a bigger dick in you, the harder it is for your pussy to stay lubricated. Dr. Jennifer Landa, MD, OB-GYN, and Chief medical officer at BodylogicMD told POPSUGAR, “For women with hormonal changes in perimenopause and menopause, a smaller penis can be beneficial because these women tend to have less lubrication and the cells of the vagina actually shrink in menopause, which can make accommodating a larger penis more difficult.”

I can definitely back this up. When I was in a relationship before my hoe days, I realized how wet I would get. It was not until I started messing with bigger dicks that I realized I started to dry up faster. I was so confused to why this was happening but it did teach me about lube!! A must!

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4. He compensates in other areas: Men with smaller dicks know they lack in size therefore they will go above and beyond to pleasure their partner. They will try to compensate for other areas in the bedroom. For example, if they’re not good with their stroke game best believe they’re going to perfect eating your pussy out or even be more accepting of sex toys in the bedroom.

Penetration isn’t everything, actually only 30% of women are orgasming from it. What does that say? Big dicks, you might be doing something wrong. If you find yourself with someone who has a smaller penis, try to include more foreplay. Foreplay will get you heated so fast that you might even forget about the size.

5. Kinks: When I was a Dominiatrix I was introduced to the kink of small penis humiliation. “Small penis humiliation is a form of verbal erotic humiliation involving the penis where a dominant person usually consensually degrades a submissive’s penis.” The person doesn’t necessarily have to have a small penis to enjoy this type of degrade. It’s mainly the idea of making them feel their dick is useless that turns them on.

Of course this is something you would have to discuss with your partner to see if they’re okay with this type of humiliation. Don’t just make fun of your partner’s penis size out of nowhere. That’s just plain mean.

Hey, how would you know you don’t like it if you don’t try?! It can be real hot when you think of it as a dominant/submissive play. This is a little extreme but it’s worth checking out on porn if you’ve never seen it.

As you can see, a smaller dick is not the end of the world! It just means you might have to get a little more creatively sexy which is not a terrible thing! That sounds exciting! So, don’t be discouraged by the size and continue to rock the boat, rock the boat!


Have you had experiences with a smaller dick? What are the ways you make it work?

Stay Sexy & Curious

An Orgasm Twitter Thread

My pussy is so sore from yesterday’s masturbation session in the best way! I decided to spend my afternoon trying out my new vibrator, CATO from VIVE. I had tried it once before but I really wanted to give it an honest review. So, I got to it. I masturbated and took notes! Here is a thread I shared on twitter of my experience with the CATO by VIVE. Just thinking about it gets me excited.  A real review is in the works, but for now, enjoy!




Spice Up Your Sex Life Challenge

It’s almost that time of the year where everyone can’t help but feel LOVE in the air! Oh and let’s not forget the most commercialized holiday.The media and the stores you go in will not let you forget it.

It’s only mid January, can we appreciate this moment as this is the first time in almost 3 years where we are not constantly talking about a pandemic. We’ve finally gone back to not knowing what happens at the White House and I’m happy about that. It’s back to being boring.


OKAY back to sex. Whether you are spending the month of February alone, with a fuck buddy or with a partner, I have a challenge for you. I came up with this challenge to spice anyone’s sex life. You can be a frequent masturbator, the couple who can’t stop fucking, the person who feels sexy all the time, SINGLE, it’s literally for anyone who wants to make their current sex life a little bit more interesting.

This is especially great for people who are just starting their sexual journey to embracing their sexuality and curiosities. You’ll find simple challenges from touching yourself with your hands to more risque challenges like masturbating in front of your window.

It’s alright if you don’t complete the entire month, but try to go back to this chart whenever you want to try something new. You can even cut these up in tiny squares and throw it in a hat then choose from there. 

Spice up your sex life challe
Spice Up your Sex life Challenge

Challenge yourself! You can choose to do this alone on some days or include your partner in it. Either way, you will learn something new about yourself and your body. I myself will try to complete this as I’m trying to be my sexiest self, too!


You don’t need a lot of tools for this challenge except for YOURSELF + SEX TOY + LOTS OF LUBE

Here are some of my suggestions:

Since Valentine’s day is coming up soon, a lot of sex shops will be having a sale. So, take advantage of this and shop now! Make sure to check out My Favorite Sex Shops page for any codes to get an extra discount.



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Shop Sale

Save big on select valentine’s picks with code LOVERBABE @
Save big on select valentine’s picks with code LOVERBABE @

Babeland is one of the OGs of Sex Toy shops. I remember living in New York and walking into a Babeland store and feeling so comfortable! I’ve never met a staff in there that I did not like. Babeland is one of the stores that have a huge sale going on right now.

You’ll find sex toys, lingerie, accessories, and everything you’ll need for a perfect Valentine’s Day.


The Enigma by LELO
The Enigma by LELO

LELO is celebrating their 20th anniversary with a huge sale. A LELO toy would be the perfect gift to give to yourself this Valentine’s day. They’re luxury and sexy, everything that describes you.

But if you’re looking for a toy that does it all- a clit stimulator, vibrator, and a dildo, The Enigma is it!

I’ve never came so hard in my life before. This is one of my go to toys along with my Satisfyer. Check out The Enigma Review. This is all you’ll need for your challenge if any!


Toy Cleaners

JO Lube

JO lube is one my boyfriend and I’s favorite go to lube. Not only do they sell amazing quality lubes but, they also sell my favorite sex toy cleaner. It makes removing all the cum and crust off in all the crevices of any toy so easy. Check out How I clean my Dildos post to see it work.

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Lingerie from Babeland
Rose and Thorn Lace Crop top and Panty from Babeland

There’s a challenge to walk around naked but if that’s too much for you right now, a sexy lingerie will do! Red and white really pop on the skin so aim for those colors this Valentine’s Day.

Rose and Thorn Lace Crop top and Panty from Babeland








How to Give a Sloppy Blowjob

Giving a blowjob is definitely on the list but in particular, a SLOPPY BLOWJOB. No one likes dry head so prepare by reading How to Give Sloppy Head  and How to Start Enjoying Giving Blowjobs. Then you will be all set to give the greatest blowjob!









If you’re alone on Valentine’s day and you need some dick, go get some dick. There are plenty of dildos out there that are surprisingly realistic! You can even choose the skin color if you have a preference. Check out Tantus’s collection of all types of dildos.

Another favorite dildo brand of mine is Vixen which apparently you can shop for on Amazon!

Vixen Creations Bandit Vixskin Dildo, Chocolate










Sensory Play

GLO Bondage – Blindfold by Babeland

Sensory play is on the list! Think your five senses – smell, touch, hear, taste, and see. Then think of taking one away while you’re having sex.

-Blindfold your partner while you whisper and lick every part of their body.

– Temperature play. Get some ice cubes and run it down your thighs, labia, and on your nipples. Get creative with it. Also, if you have glass toys you can play with its temperature by putting it in the freezer or running it under warm water.

– Get a pair of handcuffs and put them on yourself or your partner so that you’re restrained from doing any of the touching. This will drive you wild especially when your partner gets near your pussy.

– For sound, you can whisper dirty things in each others ear. The goal is to turn each other on with sound. Need help talking dirty? Here is a how to talk dirty post!

– If you want to play around with the idea of “pain” or something more rough, try a pinwheel with spikes on it. This with a blindfold! woo, HOT.

Okay, I think you’re finally ready for the challenge. If you have any questions or need help with coming up with any ideas, leave a comment below!

Stay Sexy & Curious

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Disclaimer: Many of the links provided are affiliate links which means that I may get commission if you purchase something using the link on my website. (Thank you in advance) This is at no cost to you at all. I only share things that I believe would help one in their sexual journey. All my opinions and advice are my own. I am not a doctor or therapist so if you have any real life concerning questions, I am not the one.

How to be Sexually Attractive to your Man Again

Oh, don’t we all love the honeymoon phase in a relationship. It’s carefree, fun and full of sex. It’s when that ends when we start to realize that the moves we were once doing no longer works. Although sparks may disappear in a relationship after some time, it doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to rekindle it again. It just takes a little work.

One way to rekindle your relationship is to become sexually attractive to your man all over again. Remember the times when he’d want to fuck your brains out all the time? Whenever and where ever? That can happen again. Wanting to be more sexually attractive to your man is already a step into rekindling your relationship.

How to be Sexually Attractive to Your Man Again

1.Talk about your personal goals: When you’ve been in your relationship long enough you become comfortable with silence. Fill that silence up with talking about your personal goals. Your goals have probably changed since you guys started dating so give him an update! Knowing that you’re still working on yourself in this partnership is an attractive trait.

2. Be sexually spontaneous: Remember all the crazy sex moves you tried in the beginning of the relationship? Continue to research and look for new moves to try. Maybe even gift him Position of the Day: Sex Everyday in Every Way. He’ll appreciate the effort that you want to do something sexy together.

Another tip to being sexually spontaneous is by sucking his dick when he least expects it. It could be while he’s watching television, getting dressed for work, or even while he’s cooking. Just don’t do it while he’s frying anything. Hell, even throw your titties in his face every now and then. Who can get mad at that?

3. Don’t wait for him: Taking initiative is sexy! If there is something you want to do, don’t wait and expect that he’ll do it, just do it. For example, if you want to have sex, make the move first. Or if it’s something he likes to do when he gets home, have that already ready for him. The fact that he doesn’t have to ask you to do something is attractive.

4. Remind him how sexy he is: Men don’t want to say it but they love being told how sexy they are. You always hear that it is a woman’s thing but trust me it’s a man thing too. It doesn’t take much to caress your man’s body and tell him what you love about it. It could be the thing he needs to get back into the sexy mood.

5. Walk around in something sexy: Maybe you guys got so comfortable with each other that you’re both more comfortable in sweats and with your hair in a bun. Switch it up by putting a little more effort into your makeup and walk around in lingerie. Show him what he’s missing!

6. Accept him for who he is: No one is perfect. There is always going to be someone out there who gets on your nerves. But if you love someone, the best thing to do is practice acceptance. Accept that you can’t change them. ” Either way, you accept the reality of the other person. You may not like it, you may not prefer it, you may feel sad or angry about it, but at a deeper level, you are at peace with it. That alone is a blessing. And sometimes, your shift to acceptance can help things get better.” says Rick Hanson, PHD on . By accepting your partner for who they are, you’ll be less likely to point out what you don’t approve of them which eventually can make you sexually attractive again!

7. Send him a naughty text: I bet your man forgot how sexy you are so send him a random naughty text to remind him. Try to do it when he’s at work so that he looks forward to something when he comes home. Run into the bathroom and maybe bend over and show him where his big dick of his is going to go later.

Or if you guys are in the same room, send him a text to have him blush in public.


How to be sexually attractive to your man again

8. Be yourself: Sometimes in a relationship we get caught up on loving each other too much that we forget to be ourselves. Change your mindset to starting all over again. Pretend you’re meeting each other again for the first time and you’re trying to show him all of you on the first date. Flirt like you used to flirt. He’ll be reminded all over again why he fell in love with you to begin with.

9. Confidence: Be confident! No one likes a person who is insecure and feels they can’t hold their own. Any chance you get to be confident, do it! There is truth to confidence is key! Check out my post on Ways to boost your Confidence before sex!

As you can see, it’s possible to reignite that spark in your relationship. It just takes a little effort. If you think about it too much, you’ll never do it. So, just have fun with it. Remember, it’s usually the small things that count the most!

Stay Sexy & Curious!

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How to Make Missionary Sex more Exciting

If missionary position was an actual person, I’d feel bad for them because of their bad reputation. No one thinks freaky, sexy when it comes to missionary, they think boring, lazy and vanilla. I have a feeling most people feel this way about missionary because they’ve had a bad experience where they felt the person fucking them was the only one enjoying the moment.

It’s especially easy to feel that way when you feel you have no control in the position. I understand because I’ve been in that situation before. I’m a tiny person and my type is 6 foot and up and built so you can imagine how small I can feel. It wasn’t until I switched the role where I was in control even if I was on the bottom that made me start to like missionary.

Since I started taking control of my sex life, I refuse to not orgasm. I believe that if my partner is going to cum, I’m going to cum, too. Of course, there are instances where I just want my partner to cum because his pleasure matters to me but for the most part, I am going to have an orgasm regardless. So because of that mindset I set for myself, I had to make missionary position work for me.

I’m happy to say while missionary position isn’t my favorite position, it’s not my least favorite. I actually think I have some bomb ass missionary sex. There are times where I’m even shocked by how many times I’ve cum in that position.

So here I am, Theresa, about to put missionary sex back on the map!

When I talk about missionary sex, missionary position, I’m talking about a person on the bottom while someone is on top penetrating them. Typically a man on top of a woman but it’s 2022 that can be anyone now.

Missionary position is one of the most underrated position as we forget the benefits of it. We forget that it’s a great starter position for any sex activity, it’s an intimate position, and it’s less effort for days you’re not trying to have a full on fuck session.

How to make missionary sex more exciting

Add sex toys – adding sex toys to any sex position always makes it more exciting including missionary. Grab your favorite vibrator and use it on your clit while he’s in you. Your orgasm will be so strong you’ll forget you hate the missionary position. Not only will you be satisfied but your partner will love watching you close up while you are orgasming on his dick. Check out my post on sex toys for beginners.

If using a vibrator is uncomfortable to use while in the missionary position, try using a butt plug to wake up the nerves in your bootyhole.

Switch up the Angles – When I’m on the bottom, I get in angles that work for me. Which means I get in positions that are either rubbing against my clit or I get in a position where his dick can get in deeper.

If you’re looking for more of a clit stimulation, try holding on to his booty while you grind your pelvic on his. Adjust yourself so that your clit is rubbing against him. Imagine dancehall music in the background and you’re trying to grind on him until he cums. Holding on to his booty will help you have more control with the movement so that you can determine how you want your clit to be rubbed. I like to think of it as me fucking him instead of him fucking me.

To get in a deeper angle, I like to get in the happy baby yoga stretch position. While he’s in you, bend your knees and grab the outside of your feet. Then, flex your feet up into your hands while spreading your knees apart. I find that in this position not only am I getting a deeper penetration which stimulates my G-spot more but it also makes keegling on his dick easier. The harder I flex my feet into my hands, the harder my keegle is on his dick.

Try other angles especially if you’re flexible. Take advantage of those yoga stretches you know and bring them to bed. If you can bring your legs behind your head, do that. Your partner will be impressed by your moves.

Make out more- Since you’re already in this intimate position might as well make it more interesting by making out more in between. The next time you’re in missionary, try making out passionately by using your entire body. Grab on to his head, his butt, and touch his entire body while you tongue each other down. I find making out more in between builds the moment up.  Also, don’t forget to kiss on each other’s necks!

Talk dirty to each other – Feedback and communication is always sexy in any position. If you like something that your partner is doing, make sure to let them know so that they continue to do what you like. You can also use this opportunity to communicate what you don’t like so you don’t feel like you’re stuck down there. Check out my post on dirty talk to help you come up with things to say during sex

Just let go- I find when I’m in the missionary position and I let go and focus on every thrust instead of how much I don’t like the position, I have a much more satisfying time. Next time, allow yourself to be free by letting whatever noise comes out of you and by moving the way your body wants to move. Don’t force anything and just let it happen.

Touch yourself- If you don’t have toys, you can always take it back to the old school way and use your hands! While you’re on the bottom, you can make it worth your time by touching your erogenous zones like your nipples, your neck, and your ears. Touch yourself the way you’d want to be touched since you know best what turns you on. If you don’t, that means you need to masturbate more. Check out my tips on masturbating!

Play with your partner’s butt: If you have access to his booty, play with it! Men secretly love when you worship their body too.

You see, missionary sex can be fun and exciting! You just need to change your mindset on it and know that you can be in control too.

Do you have any tips on how to make missionary sex more exciting? Comment below!

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