Month: January 2023

50 Self Care Ideas to Bring You Closer to Your True Sexy Self

Happy Monday, you sexy YOU!! I hope everyone had a great weekend. I sure did. My boyfriend had friends over which made the weekend felt like it lasted forever. While I had a great time, I’m glad it is over. I’m ready to start this Monday and get back to a routine.

But because I was socializing most of the time this weekend, I’m feeling a little mentally drained. I don’t know about you but I’m a spoiled brat and I want things to be about me all of the time.. Just kidding… I know that I can’t always have it my way but when I can, that starts with self-care.

According to, self-care: “the term describes a conscious act a person takes in order to promote their own physical, mental, and emotional health.” It’s easy to forget about self-care especially when you are a busy person or taking care of others. But, if you think about it, how can you really help others if you don’t start with yourself first?

When you give advice to someone, you want to have a clear mind. When you are physically helping someone, you want to be healthy and strong to do so. Especially when you are on your sexual journey. When you are on your sexual journey or you’re looking to better your sex life, it starts with you!

Stop for a moment in your busy day and sit with your feelings.

Ask your soul what your body needs right NOW.

This could be that one thing that you need to help you get through your day without stressing.

I promise you will be a much happier person if you take some time out everyday to practice self-care. You’ll feel so much better the next time you help someone because at least you know in your heart that you put yourself first already.

You all know I am going to recommend masturbating for self-care because I believe that is the most intimate thing you can do for yourself but I’m biased! So, here is a list of 50 things you can do for yourself for self-care. You might even find that you do some of these things already which is great! 

Also check out the post on How to Boost Your Confidence before Sex. You might find that doing self-care for you can lead you to becoming more confident.

The next time you do that thing, remind yourself that you’re doing this for yourself and no one else. See how that makes you feel.

50 Self-Care Ideas
  1. Masturbate
  2. Get a massage
  3. Take a fitness class
  4. Create an alter for when you meditate
  5. Do NOTHING and don’t feel bad about it.
  6. Dance like no one is watching
  7. Buy a plant and repot it
  8. Watch a movie in the movie theatre
  9. Go on a weekend trip
  10. Go to a museum
  11. Eat at the restaurant you’ve had your eye on
  12. Journal
  13. Go to a bar and make new friends
  14. Roll & smoke a joint
  15. Go on Youtube and learn a new skill
  16. Go shopping or even window shop. Try on all the outfits you’re going to buy one day.
  17. Draw and paint something
  18. Take a bubble bath
  19. Take a cooking class
  20. Take a long walk
  21. Lay on the ground and stare at the sky
  22. Get a mani / pedi
  23. Check yourself out and then list everything you love about yourself
  24. Create a vision board
  25. Go to a stand up show
  26. Find affirmations that work for you
  27. Create a music playlist for all your moods
  28. Go to a puppy shop / dog park
  29. Put your phone away the entire day
  30. Binge watch your favorite show
  31. Try doing the opposite of something you would normally do
  32. Give yourself a hug
  33. Connect with yourself spiritually. Find meaning in everything.
  34. Call your best friend
  35. Eat a salad
  36. Compliment a stranger
  37. Go to a sex shop
  38. Lose control. What do you feel you control? Let go of it. Trust the Universe.
  39. Take a HOT yoga class
  40. Drink water
  41. Plan a date with your friends
  42. Sing out loud
  43. Bye yourself a cake
  44. Join meet up and meet with people who share the same interests
  45. Have a cheat meal
  46. Rearrange your room
  47. Take the train to anywhere
  48. Breathe
  49. Stretch
  50. Be intentional

What do you do for self-care? Let me know!

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1906 Love Drops Review

Love Drops by 1906

Hi bbys! I’m here with a review! It’s not a vibrator, it’s not a dildo, and it’s not a butt plug… DRUM ROLL PLEASE! It’s the Love Drops by 1906! Love Drops is a plant based aphrodisiac cannabis pill. “An aphrodisiac made from five exotic herbs renowned for their love-enhancing properties, plus cannabis to increase sensuality.”- 1906

This product has 2.5mg THC/2.5mg CBD which is perfect for a person who is not a heavy smoker or a huge edible person. I actually quit smoking a couple of months ago because weed was messing with my anxiety. I became very anxious and paranoid when I would smoke. But, that was just a sign for me that I had my own personal problems that I had to work on. I do plan on going back to smoking as soon as I fix my issues because I actually like smoking, especially when it’s intentional.

That brings me back to the pills! I love these Love Drop pills because they are intentional! It’s exactly what is says it’s for, Love and Arousal. These pills were made for the modern person whose mind is always racing which can distract them from enjoying their sex life to the fullest. These pills are filled with ingredients that are made to reduce your stress levels while also increasing you blood levels to your brain and your body. Which means both men and women can benefit from this.

5 Exotic Herbs

Damiana is a herb that is native to Texas, Mexico, South and Central America, and the Caribbean. This herb is best known for it’s aphrodisiac benefits like helping women increase their ability to achieve orgasms and help people connect with their sensual side.

Ashwagandha is a herb known to reduce stress which can lead to an increase in libido and fertility in both men and women.

Muira Puama & Catuaba These herbs increase blood flow to the pelvic area for both men and women and we all know what happens when we get some blood flow down there!

Theobromine is a heart stimulant and vasodilator meaning that it opens blood vessels. This prevents the muscles from tightening and allowing more blood flow to the brain and body.

At first I was skeptical about the pills not working. What can 2.5mg of THC do to you anyways? I thought the dosage was too low to even feel anything. So, I took 2 pills to make it 5mg of THC instead. This helps to know your body and know how much you can take. But I do love the idea of starting with 1 pill if you are new to this.

I am a naturally horny human being so there is not a moment where I’m not trying to fuck my boyfriend’s brains. So I couldn’t really tell if the Love pills MADE ME horny. If anything the feeling was very subtle. It was not until I got on that dick and realized that the pills were working!


I noticed my mind more focused on the present and not what task I had to do the next day. I felt every thrust in my pussy. I felt every touch on my body. I felt my juices running down his balls. It was crazy! The moment felt like a perfectly directed sex scene in a movie. It felt like him and I were the only people on this world. Dramatic but true. Even on their website they warn that beds have been known to levitate. 😉 I’m getting horny just writing that! aha/

I think these pills are safe enough to take outside of the bedroom if you wanted to make date night a little more interesting. ( Ofcourse, you should know your body and should try it at home first). I don’t think you’d trip like you would as if you were on straight THC.

I’ve taken other sexual enhancements before like the Pink Kitty/Kitty Kat which is famously known for making your pussy super wet according to a twitter thread. Not only did it NOT make my pussy wet but it also left me with the worst headache of my life. I do not recommend taking these pills as these pills are not FDA approved and are known to have ingredients that are in viagra. What’s sketchy about it is that we don’t know the dosage of the ingredients in each pill. So be careful when taking those gas station pills. They may work for some but that next day crash is not worth it!

Unfortunately these pills can only be found in AZ, CO, IL, MA, OK, MI, OH. With that being said, THC is not the only way to increase your libido. There are plenty of natural herbs like the ones that are in these pills that can do the same on its own. I think I just got my next idea for a post!

But, if you can get your hands on these pills, I highly recommend it! Remember each experience is going to be different for everyone but it’s worth a try.

“FDA Disclaimer: The statements made regarding these products have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. The efficacy of these products has not been confirmed by FDA-approved research. These products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. All information presented here is not meant as a substitute for or alternative to information from healthcare practitioners. Please consult your healthcare professional about potential interactions or other possible complications before using any product.”

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O is for Open Wide

This week I’m participating in Sinful Sunday Challenge. “Sinful Sunday is ALL about the image. It’s a time and a place to share those sexy/erotic pictures that you have taken.” The challenge is to take a photo based off the erotic theme given. This week she continues the challenge with a letter prompt, which is The Letter O.

When I saw this, I was more than excited! I’m always up for a sexy challenge especially if it involves erotic and pictures. Ever since I’ve had a phone with a camera, I’ve always loved taking pictures of myself. Yes, it’s gotten me into trouble at times but the way I think about it is, anything before I was 18 didn’t count because that would just be wrong.

I love taking photos of myself that make me look like a pornstar.

So fast forward to my adult days, I love taking photos of myself that make me look like a pornstar. I think that is something I would’ve done in another life if I didn’t have a gigantic filipino family. I would hate for my Uncle’s to come up to me and ask me how I loved doing the ” Big Black Cock in my Asshole” movie. Yeah, that’s not the conversations I want to have at baby showers.

I just love how freeing pornstars are! Urgh, how jealous and turned on I am when I watch porn and I see a hot young Asian girl with a similar looking like pussy as mine. I can’t help but think that I could’ve taken that dick better than her.

I look at pornstars like performers and artists. I admire them. To me, they’re like singers, dancers, acrobats, and anything else that requires a special skill. I think a lot of people look down at pornstars because they don’t have a typical office job. They’re naked and having sex for the world to see and that makes people uncomfortable.

But if you really think about it, pornstars are not your average people. They require real skills. For example, they need to be able to take dick and different objects in their pussy, their booty hole, mouth or anything that has a crease. They also need to be able to take dick for a long period of time which I already know some of ya’ll can’t take dick for more than 10 minutes. And don’t get me wrong, that is not to shame you but to make you realize pornstars are another breed and you cannot compare yourself to them.

Let your man watch porn! It’s like us women watching romantic movies all day. We fantasize what’s in front of us and try to imagine how we can make it come to life. I digress!

I say this all to say if you can’t be a pornstar, you can always look like one!

So because I can’t be a pornstar, every time I get a chance to look and act like one, I take it. I think thats my boyfriends favorite thing about me. Teehee. My favorite look on a pornstar is the face they make when their mouth is open dripping with spit waiting for cum. It’s so sexy and submissive. It looks like their eyes are begging for cum to be all over their face. It’s right after being skull fucked and their makeup is smeared from all the pounding. One lash is on her forehead and the other is barely hanging on. To me, its the look of a successful fuck session. So in honor of the Letter O challenge, here is “Open Wide.”

So in honor of the Letter O: Here is “Open Wide”

Join the challenge with me! What’s your letter O?

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Sinful Sunday

Reasons Why You’re Not Achieving your Sex Goals

It’s 2023 people! 2020 sucked, 2021 sucked even more, 2022 almost sucked but it seems like at the last minute we figured out what we had to do to make 2023 the best year!

I know, I know, I’m tired of hearing that, too. ” This year is going to be the best year!”

What year have you actually said that and actually meant it? I find that every year my goals pile up on top on each other and they ever get fulfilled.

This year, I refuse to be that person who says that and doesn’t see any change.

This year, I want to achieve more of my sex goals. Last year, my main focus was figuring out how to handle my emotions. I was experiencing new things so fast all at once that I found myself feeling overwhelmed most of the time. It was hard to feel sexy in the moments when I had to take responsibility for actions that I never knew were a problem until now. My emotions put a block on my sexual journey.

I’m happy to say that I’ve learned plenty of new tools to handle my emotions and I think, actually I know, I’m ready to get back on my sexual journey. I’m ready to have orgasms, I’m ready to be turned in ways I didn’t think I could turn and most of all, I’m ready to get to back to me!

I believe we can all make 2023 our sexy year. If we stay mindful and practice good habits everyday we will get there! Here are some of the reasons that were hindering me from accomplishing my goals. I know everyone is different but I hope you can find something useful on this list.

Also, don’t be too hard on yourself when you figure out the “why”. Just be grateful you found out sooner than later.

What are your sex goals for 2023? Comment below.

Reasons Why You Are Not Achieving Your Sex Goals

Your goals are unrealistic

Some people don’t ever reach their goals because their goals are too vague and unrealistic. It’s easy to say you want to be the best at giving head or you want a million dollars but, how do you get there? I think we get so caught up with the end result that we forget that we actually have to do the work to get there.

Try breaking your goals into smaller and more specific goals.

The smaller goals is the work to get you to that bigger picture. You’ll find that achieving these smaller goals are much more rewarding than trying to do it without any plan.

Negative self-talk

Could you be listening to the negative talk in your head? It’s easy to let negative self-talk ramble in your head to the point you stop going after what you want. Next time you find yourself questioning your abilities, write it down!

You need to be aware when you do it to be able to stop.

As soon as you catch yourself, identify it and tell yourself the opposite of what it’s saying.

For example, while I was sick in my room I had a lot of time to think. I found myself questioning my abilities and doubting myself if I could even run a successful sex blog. I was being hard on myself for not working on Sexish while I WAS SICK. That was my brain trying to make me give up over one little thing. I recognized it and said NOPE. I had to tell myself I just started being consistent and I can’t stop now! I have nothing to lose and everything to gain at this point. At that moment I felt powerful.

Your focus is all over the place

A mantra that I live by is “Repetition is Mastery.” It means that you have to repeat something

for you to become good at it. Without it, you won’t see yourself improve. The reason why I found myself not achieving some of my goals was because I wasn’t focused on one thing. I was doing too many tasks at once which made it hard for me to see any accomplishments. I saw more unfinished work than finished work.

So try focusing on one thing and see where that takes you.

– Why are You doing It?

Why did you come up with this goal in the first place? Business books and self-help books always go back to the same thing when you’re lost, YOU! It’s easy to get lost when there are so many things trying to influence everyone these days. Go back to your roots and forget what everyone else is doing.

Go back to the reason why YOU came up with this goal in the first place.

-Too much control

It could be that you are trying to control the outcome. I find that when I could point out all of the things that can go wrong, I already put too much expectations on it. Especially when it comes to sex. Sex should be freeing not controlling! More on this on another post…

Have goals and be open to whatever comes your way.

– Fear of Failure

You’re so afraid to fail that you don’t even try. I’m sorry to tell you but you’re going to fail at one point. Life is about failing and then learning from it. If you don’t fail, how do you know what your best looks like? Just try!! No one is looking, I promise you!


Excuses , excuses, excuses. You probably aren’t achieving your goals because you’re making all these excuses! To me, excuses means not taking responsibility. I do not want to hear that you do not have time while there are people out here working 2 jobs and working on their dream job at the same time. If you really want to achieve your goals you will make time for it!

“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”

Benjamin Franklin

I hope this list was enlightening! I really believe that we can do whatever we put our minds to. You just really need to WANT!

My 2023 sex goals is coming soon…

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An Unsexy Start to the New Year but at least I have a New Sex Toy to look forward to

Happy New Year! We made it! I hope everyone had a great New Year. I spent the last week of the year in bed thanks to the FLU (Still recovering). I think this might be my last year I go back for the Holidays in New York. It seems like every time we visit, we end up getting sick or with COVID. And not to sound like a COVID hater, but why are people still talking about COVID?

The entire time I was sick, all I heard was Covid this, Covid that, get tested for Covid. I get you can still get COVID but, it seems like everyone has forgotten about the other sicknesses. Like the cold, the flu, your regular itchy throat. Everyone just calm down! I’ve been sick before and I’m going to get through it just like every other times. It’s also going to suck like the other times but that is life! Now, give me some orange juice, water, and Nyquil. Then, leave me alone.

My fun week in New York ended up terribly lonely and unsexy. I couldn’t meet up with my best friend, I couldn’t see my grandparents, I couldn’t see my little cousins and worst of all, I couldn’t workout! I haven’t worked out in a week!!! My butt is literally deflating in front of me! SIGH!! I literally stayed in bed weak as fuck attempting to be productive.

Note to self: when you’re sick, just be sick. You’re not going to be a better person if you do something while you are sick.

That’s something I want to work on in 2023. Just letting things be and sitting with it. That goes with my feelings, silence, and the uncomfortable. I just want to experience it all.

My boyfriend was sick too so we ended up celebrating New Years Eve eating chicken noodle soup and watching Zootopia. Also, was it just in Chicago or did it feel like no one had the energy to celebrate the end of the year? I didn’t see any New Year decorations anywhere. Oh and don’t get me started on the local news celebration out here. It was whack whack whack! No one was jumping or looked excited. It was no NYC ball drop lol. I’m biased!

But I don’t even think New Years in NYC was as good as every other year. I heard there was even an alcohol band on CNN. That’s dumb! Who chooses to celebrate NYE sober? I was sick so I had an excuse.

Because we had no New Year decorations, I made some. Do not judge me! I was working with what I had which was cardboard boxes from presents and gift bags. I’m proud of what I came up considering I was sick.

Okay let me not be such a negative Nancy. Besides having the Flu, I had a wonderful Christmas! I love being around family and watching everyone open their presents. I especially enjoyed opening my presents :P. I can’t believe as an adult I still get presents- really good ones too.

Also in sex news, I had some great welcome home sex back. I thought since I was sick I wouldn’t be able to cum but wow, it’s always the times you least expect it when you cum your hardest. It didn’t matter that I had no taste or no smell, I still came and it was soo good. My boyfriend was so proud of me. The wasn’t going to stop me from getting dick, nope!

While I want to keep this post short since I am still sick, I want to give you something to look forward to. New Sex Toy Alert!!


It’s Cato from VIVE

I’ve never used a rabbit toy before so I’m interested if this actually works. For some reason I’ve always been skeptical using a rabbit vibrator. Something about the bunny ears don’t look like they would do the job. But I’m so ready to find out!

I hope everyone had a safe holiday. It’s 2023, let’s get it!! This is the year!! I can just feel it!

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