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How to Dirty Talk 101

Oh dirty talking, you’ve got to love it! It’s always something you never thought you would say out loud until you do and you’re like “damn, my pussy is wet. What else can I say?”

Dirty talk can be intimidating, exciting and awkward at first.

Like everything, practice makes perfect. Dirty talk is a great way to intensify things in the bedroom which can lead to better sex and becoming closer to your partner sexually. I believe it brings out a side of ourselves that we never knew was there. It taps into another sexual realm that can be so intense!

If you think you’re ready to talk dirty, here are some tips to get you started.

Figure Out Each Other’s Desires

First things first, figure out what you and your partner are into. What are their turn ons, turn offs, fantasies, desires? Then have a discussion about it. Don’t sleep on communication because that can be sexy too. Imagine knowing what your partner is into and being able to fully satisfy it? HOT.

It’s also important to know what words are forbidden so that you don’t end up killing the mood. For me, the word is “B*tch.” Don’t call me a bitch if you don’t want my pussy to dry up like a vacuum.

If a discussion is off the table, try asking questions during sex. Getting feedback from your partner can be another form of dirty talk. While you’re exploring each others bodies, ask questions like “do you like it when I do this?” “YES! Don’t stop!” “You’re so sexy.”

Confidence

Without confidence your sex talk will sound forced and awkward. I remember when I was starting to talk dirty, I would whisper real low so that they wouldn’t hear it just in case I said something off. You do not want to be in that situation as you will get a lot of “huh?” Not cute. Check out my blog post on confidence and why you need it to be successful at dirty talking.

Be Yourself

Be yourself! It will show if you’re not. It can be possible you’re not the explicit type and you’re more sensual. Try saying what you want to say out loud to yourself and see how it makes you feel. If you cringe, maybe it’s not for you. If you even you want to fuck yourself, then YES! Your partner will appreciate what you’re saying if it’s very “you.” That’s why they fell in love with you in the first place right? For you!

Text It First

Dirty talking is not just for in person. If you’re not ready to talk dirty in person just yet, try texting it first. This will be a great way to find out if your partner is into it too. Use this opportunity to ask questions and tell them how you are feeling so that you can use this information when you get into bed.

Here are some dirty talk phrases to try.

  1. “I want your hard dick in me. “
  2. “ I want you to make me beg for it.”
  3. “ You’re so sexy, I can stare at you all night.”
  4. “ You feel so good”
  5. “ Your pussy/dick feels so good.”
  6. “I want you so bad.”
  7. “ Just like that!”
  8. “ I want to make you cum”

Dirty talking can be a whole different experience in itself. It will tap into feelings you’ve never tapped into before. According to Fatherly.com, “When you feel sexy and empowered and are being creative in your words and imagination, you are more likely to feel comfortable trying new things, asking for what you want, and feeling comfortable with your sexuality,” says Dr. Rachel Needle, a licensed psychologist in West Palm Beach, Florida and the Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. ” Have fun talking dirty!! As long there is consent, I say go for it. Even if it ends up with you guys cracking up. At least you tried.

Stay Sexy & Curious!

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Ways to Boost your Confidence Before sex

If you ask anyone who is having amazing, drooling, sexy sex what the sexiest thing they find in their partner, I bet they’d answer their CONFIDENCE.

Confidence: (noun) the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.

Confidence is something you need if you want to excel in anything. It’s what sets you apart from everyone else. When you are confident everyone around you feels it. It’s an energy that goes unnoticed. That same confidence applies in the bedroom.

Before I tell you a couple of ways on how to boost your confidence before sex, I suggest that you start with an open communication with your partner about the things that turn both or several of you on. This will allow you to adjust some of the tips below so that it makes sense to your relationship.

Communication doesn’t have to be boring or a turn off. It can be sexy! Try talking dirty, asking questions or try to look out for feedback in the way they move. While I’d love to keep on going with the importance of communication, I’ll save it for later.

Why do you need confidence in the bedroom? If you don’t have confidence, something or your partner will have to compensate for it. Your focus should be on pleasure and connection, not insecurities. Just like you can pose in front of the mirror like a superhero to gain confidence, theres things you can do before sex that can give you the confidence to perform your best.

EXERCISE: Before sex I like to make sure that my body feels and looks plump and ready to go. I like to stand in front of the mirror (preferably a long mirror) and do a couple of sets of squats to get the blood flowing to my glutes. Have you ever heard of being swoll right after the gym? It’s when your body looks plump from lifting heavy. So not only internally will you be feeling amazing but your body will show it. To me, I personally feel great if my ass looks great so squatting is the exercise for me. I’d say to work on your favorite body part right before so that you feel your sexiest.

If you’re not into exercising, try twerking or dancing in front of the mirror. I find that it helps just as much with my confidence. Every time I put on dancehall music and I get real into it, that’s when I feel my sexiest. Doing this before sex will get you ready to go.

PUT ON MAKEUP: I don’t care what men think about when it comes to why women put on makeup but it’s always for us! Sorry not sorry. We know that men have no idea what the purpose of choosing a lighter concealer for under the eyes does for us.

“Putting on makeup is like putting on a pair of high heels. It gives you confidence and makes you feel more in control,” says Sonia Kashuk, makeup artist and founder of Sonia Kashuk Beauty.

The next time you need a confidence boost, try putting on makeup the way you like it. When you have control of what you put on your face, you’ll have control of what you get in the bedroom.

LINGERIE: I was never a lingerie person in the past. I always thought that it would be ripped off my body and it would be a waste. What I didn’t know about wearing lingerie was that I actually like the physical act of someone ripping off the lingerie. Something about it feels so raw, passionate, and sexy.

I love to wear lingerie when I want to surprise my partner. It makes me feel in control when I know what I have on is going to turn his dick out.

For my lingerie, I like to go to Victoria’s Secret, Savage, or I’ll just go to the lingerie section of a store and try to match the closet bra and panty.

PEP TALK: Just like you give yourself a pep talk before making a speech, I give myself a pep talk in the mirror before sex. I like to take an “Issa” moment and remind myself of what a bad ass bish I am! How beautiful I am. How open I am to feel what I’m about to feel. Remember no one can love you as much as you love yourself.

SEND A NAUGHTY TEXT: Another way to boost your confidence before sex is sending your partner a naughty text. Sending a naughty text is a great way to keep your relationship more interesting.

“All relationships require care and maintenance,” Dr. Manly tells Bustle. “When sexual intimacy is nurtured as an important element, the relationship tends to stay very bonded over time.”

This helps my confidence because it makes me feel like I’m in control of the situation. My partner knows when he gets a text from me that I’m feeling sexy and he can’t wait to get home.

MASTURBATE/WATCH PORN : What’s great about porn now a days is that you can find a porn that is for YOU! You no longer have to watch raunchy porn on pornhub or eporner (I still love it 😡 ) . There’s porn that’s made by women and regular people.

Try watching porn and masturbating before sex. When I masturbate, I’m able to let myself go. I feel like I’m preparing my body for pleasure and it feels so sexy! I use this time to love my body and be grateful that I can make myself cum. When you know how to make yourself cum, you won’t have a problem guiding your partner when they need help.

I also love watching porn to keep my sex move toolbox fresh. I love being in front of the mirror and imitating what my favorite pornstar is doing. I love feeling like a pornstar and if that’s how you like to feel too, give that a try. 😉

Glamour has a list of pornsites they think women would like. It’s worth to look at.

Everybody’s definition of sexy is different, so some of these tips might not work for you. Find what makes you sexy and do it. It is worth creating habits that make you feel sexy. It reflects in the real world and in the bedroom.

 
 
 
 
 
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