How to Dirty Talk 101

Oh dirty talking, you’ve got to love it! It’s always something you never thought you would say out loud until you do and you’re like “damn, my pussy is wet. What else can I say?”

Dirty talk can be intimidating, exciting and awkward at first.

Like everything, practice makes perfect. Dirty talk is a great way to intensify things in the bedroom which can lead to better sex and becoming closer to your partner sexually. I believe it brings out a side of ourselves that we never knew was there. It taps into another sexual realm that can be so intense!

If you think you’re ready to talk dirty, here are some tips to get you started.

Figure Out Each Other’s Desires

First things first, figure out what you and your partner are into. What are their turn ons, turn offs, fantasies, desires? Then have a discussion about it. Don’t sleep on communication because that can be sexy too. Imagine knowing what your partner is into and being able to fully satisfy it? HOT.

It’s also important to know what words are forbidden so that you don’t end up killing the mood. For me, the word is “B*tch.” Don’t call me a bitch if you don’t want my pussy to dry up like a vacuum.

If a discussion is off the table, try asking questions during sex. Getting feedback from your partner can be another form of dirty talk. While you’re exploring each others bodies, ask questions like “do you like it when I do this?” “YES! Don’t stop!” “You’re so sexy.”


Without confidence your sex talk will sound forced and awkward. I remember when I was starting to talk dirty, I would whisper real low so that they wouldn’t hear it just in case I said something off. You do not want to be in that situation as you will get a lot of “huh?” Not cute. Check out my blog post on confidence and why you need it to be successful at dirty talking.

Be Yourself

Be yourself! It will show if you’re not. It can be possible you’re not the explicit type and you’re more sensual. Try saying what you want to say out loud to yourself and see how it makes you feel. If you cringe, maybe it’s not for you. If you even you want to fuck yourself, then YES! Your partner will appreciate what you’re saying if it’s very “you.” That’s why they fell in love with you in the first place right? For you!

Text It First

Dirty talking is not just for in person. If you’re not ready to talk dirty in person just yet, try texting it first. This will be a great way to find out if your partner is into it too. Use this opportunity to ask questions and tell them how you are feeling so that you can use this information when you get into bed.

Here are some dirty talk phrases to try.

  1. “I want your hard dick in me. “
  2. “ I want you to make me beg for it.”
  3. “ You’re so sexy, I can stare at you all night.”
  4. “ You feel so good”
  5. “ Your pussy/dick feels so good.”
  6. “I want you so bad.”
  7. “ Just like that!”
  8. “ I want to make you cum”

Dirty talking can be a whole different experience in itself. It will tap into feelings you’ve never tapped into before. According to, “When you feel sexy and empowered and are being creative in your words and imagination, you are more likely to feel comfortable trying new things, asking for what you want, and feeling comfortable with your sexuality,” says Dr. Rachel Needle, a licensed psychologist in West Palm Beach, Florida and the Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. ” Have fun talking dirty!! As long there is consent, I say go for it. Even if it ends up with you guys cracking up. At least you tried.

Stay Sexy & Curious!